Hard times...

Some of the hardest times for me, especially when the boys were still in the infant stage, is when my husband works. He is in law enforcement so long shifts are a norm. It seems it is rare that he is off work on time and overtime is almost always looming around the corner. He only works 4 days per week, but man do those 4 days feel like weeks.

When the twins were tiny I would count down the hours, then minutes, until he would get home. The phone calls that he made to let me know it would be a late night were crushing blows. I knew when he got home I couldn't drop the kids on him and run, but it was definitely a comfort, a familiar face...an adult to converse with. Any human can identify with being lonely. It's not that I was alone. I mean, I did have three boys to keep me "company" all day. I just needed reinforcement that I was doing this mom thing correctly. Or maybe that I wasn't going crazy all alone?

There are a few things that I have learned when dealing with this issue:

1. I learned to be thankful. I have a husband that works hard to provide for his family without complaint.

2. I learned to be content. I had to cherish the time we did have together and know that this is just a season. The winter always feels so long, but just around the corner is always spring (or summer if you live in the South).

3. I learned that I needed to plan breaks for myself. If that meant going to a friend's or relative's house. Is no one asking you over? Believe me, I get that....not many people want 3 boys 17 months apart at their house. Who cares!? Ask anyway! Tell them you need a change of scenery! Just be sure to not wear out your welcome. You may need to ask again....like, the next day. ;)

4. I learned that help isn't a sign that I am weak. Knowing my limits makes me stronger and wiser. Hire a sitter. I know money is tight for many, but in reality most can afford what they choose. It may be that you sacrifice in another area, but it's worth it. Every momma needs a break. If you can't afford a sitter just ask a friend or family member. More people are willing to help than you realize.

5. I learned to get fresh air! Go for walks. Stop and talk to the neighbors.  There were some days that I wanted to drop a boy at each doorstep along my walk. I refrained, but sometimes the daydream kept me sane. ;)

6. Most importantly, I learned that no human can fulfill my longings. Get in the Word. Ask God to fill you up. He will do it!

If you feel alone, find someone to connect with. You may have to initiate, but that's okay. The person you reach out to may need you as much as you need them.

Remember that thriving is just around the corner!